Monday, March 19, 2007

R-E-S-P-E-C-T..Just a little bit

"Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you." Exodus 20:12

Have you noticed the lack of respect in children these days? I have. Take our youth group, for example. They are a great bunch of kids who really seem to love God, but they are very disrespectful to adults. I see this every Sunday in how they act in church. No, they are not talking during the message or something like that. Here is what they do. You put your stuff down in your seat and go to talk to someone. You come back to find teenagers in your seat and find your stuff stuck under the seat, pushed down the seat, or moved to a different row entirely where someone else is sitting. This may seem small, but it is extremely irritating to have to hunt your Bible and purse. They don't even apologize. They just laugh. This happens quite a bit in our church.

This is not the only incidence of disrespect that I see. I see it in stores with how children talk to their parents. I see it in my own children sometimes (but I quickly nip that in the bud). I am just wondering what happened? If I had talked to my mom the way that I hear other kids talking to their parents, I would have been picking myself up off the floor. I just knew better. I hear parents saying that they want to be "friends" with their child. I don't think that my children need more friends. They need a parent. They need someone that will help mold them and guide them so that they become an adult that loves God and respects others. This does not mean that I am not there for them, it just means that I am there through the good and bad-not to just have fun with.

What are some ways that you teach your children to respect adults? Do you see this problem where you live?

Let me know what you think!

Smiles and Loves! Janis

8 comments:

Karen said...

That would really get under my skin! I'd have to say something to them as well. It's not just the teens, the 4th-5th graders have that same lack of respect when taken as a whole. Individual kids are great when they're apart from the group, but the group is rather disrespectful.

Crystal said...

You got it.......it's pandemic...it's every where and they are kids running wild......it's very frustrating! Especially when the kids friends influence them to behave badly....that is why I try to have their friends over here and then I can have some influence on how my children's friendship turn out...but my kids have more chores than any other child in their class....my kids are not allowed to get away with sassing me but it's all around them so it slips out once in a while.....makes you want to super glue their mouths shut some days! :o))

Kelly said...

I would agree! I think many simple things like using "Mr." and "Mrs." are great. Too many kids speak in a "familiar" manner to adults. Just by training in this way acknowledges that adults and children on not on the "same plane." Our kids must learn to submit to authority to understand submission to God. Great thoughts!

Mindy said...

HI Janis. I just found your blog but I just had to say I TOTALLY agree. Teenagers are SO disrespectful these days.
A couple of weeks ago, I heard voices coming from our DCE's office from the hallway. I looked in to find 3 teens ON HIS COMPUTER!!
I walked in and said that I really didn't think that it was a good idea to be on his computer and they IGNORED me. Like I had never even said anything to them.
HOW RUDE?!Right?!!!
Once you figure it out thought - I'd LOVE to know how to keep own children from becoming like this -- it is very important to me!
God Bless!

Erna said...

Janis . . . I can see it too. I don't know the youth in my church well enough to speak for them right now. However, I do know Rach has been a bit more challenging these days like she's jumped from being 3 to 6 and I'm trying to figure out how best to teach her not to speak in certain ways (i.e. I don't like your rules, etc.). It has caught me off guard and we're trying stuff as we go along but nothing has truly made a dent yet. HELP!!!

Cyndi said...

I have noticed what you are talking about. It is sad, really. I think it's really a heart issue, for "Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks." I think deep down, many really don't respect authority. I don't know if it's from parents/teachers who have wanted to be "buddies" instead of authority figures, or what. For my own kids, I know that they have always called adults "Mr." and "Mrs.". I have a new teenager, and while these instances are *very* rare, I do NOT allow her to eyeroll or answer back. I address it right then and there. I have also counseled her recently to NOT go along with friends who are griping about their parents, because she is basically helping them to sin.

The other commenters have made some great points as well. This is an interesting topic!

Terri @ In His Hands said...

Oooh, that is one of my biggest pet peeves! I teach Sunday School (2nd graders) and you would think they would be on their best behavior but no. A couple of the kids are down right rude.
I also notice that kids...elementary certainly but also teenagers rarely look you in the eye--that bugs me.
We teach our son to look adults in the eye, shake hands with a firm handshake, say "Yes, Sir" and "Yes, Ma'am" and thankfully the teachers at school request the same of the children.

An Ordinary Mom said...

Kids definitely need their parents to parent. With that said, I am trying to teach my kids how to respect by being an example. I respect them, I respect their Dad and I respect all those we come in contact. They learn so much from watching us interact with others.

 

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