Saturday, December 30, 2006

Devon Ellington's Ink In My Coffee Blog

In one of my freelance writing groups, another writer was talking about this awesome blog that I had never read. I have to admit, that I enjoyed it as well. He has this wonderful list of questions to help you with your goals, dreams, and resolutions for 2007, so I am borrowing it to help me with my resolutions. Thanks Devon!

Goals, Dreams, and Resolutions 2007
1. Take a few minutes to reflect on the previous year. What are you happy with?
The last year has been a learning experience for me as far as my freelance writing. I really did not know what I was getting myself into and didn't know how much to charge, how much time it would take to do a project, etc. I feel that I have learned quite a bit over the last year. I even have regular clients, which is great, because I do not have to depend upon Elance quite so much.
2. What are you unhappy with?
I was not structured and disciplined enough. I need to set a schedule for my writing and stay with it. I also need to realistically determine how long it will take to do a particular project and kill myself to make sure that it is done on schedule. Self-discipline is a big problem for me.
3. What unexpected joys did you discover during the year?
That my writing fulfills me. It is not just a job. It feeds my soul and passion. 4. What were some of the unexpected obstacles that came up, and how did you deal with them? Looking back, would you have done anything differently?
I had a customer that asked for much more than they had when I took the job and felt that I had to do it to prevent bad feedback on Elance. I do not want to feel "trapped" again by bad feedback. I should be able to stand up for myself and respect myself enough to just tell the client that the project price was based on doing this and that I cannot do anymore without further compensation. I ended up doing hours of work for barely $2 an hour for this jerk. Not worth it.
5. What expectations did you find you needed to let go of?
That I was going to get rich. Right now, I am just beginning, so I write articles about things that I do not particulary have any interest in. In this next year, I am going to try to write some articles that are more interesting and fun for me.
6. Looking ahead, how do you want to structure next year to support your writing?
I want to structure my days better. This may be slightly more difficult because I have children, but just having a basic schedule would help me be more efficient and decrease my stress level tremendously.
7. How does the rest of your life support your writing?
It doesn't. I need to work on that.
8. How can you change/compromise on the non-supportive elements?
I am going to have to think about this one for a while. More on it later.
9. What new aspect of the writing life do you want to try next year?
I want to have an article published in a magazine. That is my goal for next year. 10. Where do you need to be more disciplined?
My work day.
11. Where do you need to ease up on yourself?
I don't need to ease up, I need to be more disciplined.
12. List your goals for the coming year.
-magazine article published
-begin my book (not just think about it)
-make twice as much money
-set realistic schedule for working and stick with it consistently
13. List three positive, active steps to take on each goal to get it going.
1. research the market to determine where my articles would best fit, learn more about getting a magazine article published, write articles and take the chance to send them in
2. determine what kind of book that I want to write, outline the book, start writing (even it is just one paragraph!)
3. self-discipline myself to write for a certain period of time each day, take jobs that are worth the effort, be realistic about the amount of time that it takes to do particular job
4. self-discipline, scheduling, lists
14. List your dreams for the coming year.
I want to see my name in print.
15. List three positive, active steps to transform each dream into a goal.
I just have to start. Research, research, and write!
16. List your resolutions for the coming year.
-exercise consistently
-write consistently
-honesty in writing, deadlines, and life
17. List three positive, active steps to help you stick to them.
Self-discipline is the key to all of the above. By becoming more disciplined in all areas of my life, everything else will just get better. That is what I want and need!
What are your resolutions and dreams for the next year?

Friday, December 29, 2006

Lynn Newman Is Looking Right With Jesus

I have been following the cancer battle of a wonderful mom, wife, sister, daughter, and friend at for over a year now. I have read of this strong woman's ups and downs in beating cancer one time only to have it return the next year and still being strong in her faith in God. I have read as her cancer progressed to the point where she could not type anymore and had to depend upon her good friends, Holly and Jenny, to type her words and feelings for her. I have seen many pictures of her beautiful children as she tried to give them as normal a life as possible through her illness. And tonight I have cried as I read of her going home to God. As I sit her bawling, I am asking myself why I am crying for a woman that I never met? I am crying because she is a part of me and a part of every mom that is out there. She could be any of us. Her main goal was to Look Right in everything that she did. I think that right now Jesus is holding her and telling her, "Welcome, Lynn. Well done. You have been Looking Right long enough. Now come to where there is no pain and no sadness." Thank you Lynn, for opening your life to hundreds of people and thank you for your strength and faith in God. You have shown me that no matter what is in front of me, I can Look Right for God. Rest in peace, Lynn.

What Is Your Truth?

The first thing I think when I ask myself that question is "You can't handle the truth" from that movie with Jack Nicholson. I can handle the truth in this case, however. I am talking about the truth about you. I was reading a book this morning that said that we need to find the truth about ourselves and then keep that truth alive. Women have this nasty habit of lieing to ourselves. We tell ourselves that we are ugly, fat, not a good mom, not a good wife, are worthless, etc. every single day. That is not the truth that we are telling, is it? No, it is not. The truth about me is much more than that. I am overweight, but I really don't think that I am ugly. Yes I would look better if I lost some weight, but just because I have a few extra pounds does not mean that I am not beautiful. I must think that I am beautiful on some level or I would not put any effort into buying clothes, etc. Am I a good mom or wife? I probably need to do some work in these areas, but my children and husband seem to think that I am doing a good job, so why should I beat myself up about not doing everything perfectly? When I think of myself in terms of the real "truth" then I see that I am doing an okay job at my life. Yes, sometimes I fail and sometimes I just muddle through, but for the most part I am great just the way I am. That makes me feel much better mentally and helps to better prepare me for the changes that are coming. I like that.

Thursday, December 28, 2006

Wife, Mom, Daughter, Sister, Friend and Freelancer

I wear a lot of hats. It is not a bad thing, but it can be sometimes quite overwhelming. I find it hard to keep everything going. It is much like a juggling act-trying to keep all those balls in the air. I don't mean to sound like it is a bad thing, rather it is just challenging to do it right. I love my life and I love the fact that I have several different facets to my personality. 2007 is going to be the year that I endeavor to get it all under control, but more about that in another post. Can you believe that 2006 is almost gone? I am shocked, but very glad. This year has been a year of extreme ups and downs and I am ready to begin anew. It feels good to have a new start-no matter how you get it. Now to tell you about me. I am a 35-year old wife to a 41-year old dear husband (dh) that I love and trust implicitly. I am mom to a 10 year old boy (ds), a 7 year old girl (dd1), and a 2 year old girl (dd2). I stay at home and work at home as a freelance writer and editor. I am devoted to my family and very close to my mom and my sister. I am most devoted to God, who gives me strength to keep all of these balls in the air. That is my strength and my life. I look forward to sharing my thoughts with you more tomorrow!


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